Donna Collins Tinsley is a sister among you, a sojourner, who writes a word of hope for mothers who have been affected by the pain of addiction in their loved ones lives. She prays for them also through Somebody's Mother Online Prayer Support Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/119408188089314/.
She lives in Port Orange, FL and has been included in 17 book compilations, several magazines and online. She is a lover of the Lord Jesus Christ.
Praying for families, today. It's all in the blog: We, at the Port Orange Winning Women Bible study called her Aunt Lora and the movie "The War Room" sent
me to the memory banks of my soul.
She warred in the spirit way before a movie such as the
War Room was ever thought of. She was a once illiterate woman but the
Lord Himself taught her the words of scripture and although she had no formal
education she could quote verses to set your heart on fire. She could teach, she
could preach and it was all by the Holy Spirit.
I had the privilege of washing her feet when she was
about 95 years old. Her walk in this world had been long and hard. She had lived
in the days of having no civil rights and many injustices. When the Lord sent
me, He gave me specific scriptures to read. We had a wonderful time of
fellowship, prayer and praise. She said to me when I came in, “Do whatever the
Lord told you to do, I know He sent you, girl.” This experience bonded us together in
a way that I would not have imagined. Now that she has passed on I will always
treasure the privilege I was given to minister to her.
Oh, how I would love to be with her one more time as the main
character in the movie so reminded me of her. Yes, go see The War Room, but
remember He is as near as a silent prayer for help. Anywhere, any
time. Don't miss this song by Steven Curtis Chapman and scenes from the movie:
Sometimes we forget that our Lord is still in the miracle
business. Sometime I forget that God still can come in at the last second and
redeem a situation, He wars for us. Broken and weak that we may be, He hears
our cry for help and relief, before and behind us, He goes before the Father when we fall on our
knees like a warrior.
I loved "The War Room" movie but my only concern is that now people think a
prayer closet is like a magic potion; if we have one, if we post pages of
prayers, that is the key to getting our answer, please remember the key is Jesus and what He did on the
cross for us. When we accept Him we have access to the very throne of God. He
Himself intercedes for us what an awesome thought. Praise His holy name, Jesus
is the key to the War Room and He has the key to my heart today and every day as
we pray and wait. Speak His name there is power in His name and plead the blood
of Jesus over every dark work of the enemy in your life.
Trust me, I know older women in the Lord who warred in their prayer closets
long before this movie and besides Aunt Lora, Anita Smith just took the word of
God serious when she read this verse, " But
thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy
door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in
secret shall reward thee openly." (Matthew 6:6 KJV) She enters her closet every
morning and her prayers have helped many a mom press on. I honor her walk with
the Lord today.
R Us/Don't want to be but it is what it is:) Maybe you are too.
amends can be so many things and in so
many ways. I'd always pictured it very complex which led to me putting them off.
I went to seminars at a conference, took people aside, asked questions but still
felt at a loss about how to proceed. Then one day recently, quite to
my surprise, my oldest daughter said, "Come in with me," and in her bedroom
sitting on a bed together, she said, “I'm making my amends. I'm sorry for all
the things I've done to hurt you, I don't even know what all they are but I know
I've hurt you. My sponsor said I don't have to be specific or make it
complicated. I'm sorry. And I want you to have my seven year chip from NA.”
looked into her beautiful eyes and saw sincerity. I saw happiness, acceptance,
gratefulness and joy with her new life. I saw love. I hope she saw all those
things reflected back from me. I felt a bit overwhelmed and nearly felt like
this was unreal as it was something I had waited for, but it seemed to be some
vague dream or hope. When she gave me the Narcotics Anonymous chip my tears
streamed out of my eyes. She had done the hard work of staying sober for over
seven years and that was priceless to me. That's something that a lot of people
don't attain to.
I first came into a recovery program I had no idea about the true work and time
it takes to work the steps. I was pretty sure within the time it took for my
daughter and her husband to finish at the treatment center this would happen.
remember a day when I was visiting them that I got so frustrated that I, a person who
rarely ever raises her voice, started hollering "Step eight, step eight, step
eight!" I was so clueless I even had the step wrong! Step 8 is making a list and
being willing to make amends and step nine is making amends.
I started working the steps myself. I really wanted to just go fast and get to
making amends and have it over with. But I went through some equally hard years as the reality of our life set in
and life wasn’t always easy.
found out something about myself; I want to take the easy way out of so many
things. As a sexual abuse overcomer sometimes I feel that life has been too hard
already. Let me have some peace until it’s over and I can go be with my Lord.
Just let me have a no-conflict zone, let me have serenity on earth and in my
home. Let my boundaries be such that I don’t have to deal with those who might
hurt me with their words. Let me love, let me laugh again, let me have happy
family times and one day, please Lord, let me have that cherished family photo
where we are all together and happy.
learning to take things one day at a time. Give us this day, our daily bread,
our daily provision of grace. Give us peace, give us sanity, give us a caring
heart, and help me not to live my life bleeding from the pain of life. Help me
to not hurry the process as it is what it is until it isn't. Help me to have a
grateful heart, thinking of all my blessings instead of all my fears.
from family dysfunction is a process; I'm learning that there is no one set way
that these things have to be worked. I'm hoping that things can be flexible
enough to take into account real life scenarios that need to happen sometimes
before we thought they should happen. Does that make any
Listen. Ask the Holy Spirit. Do the hard work of recovery. Be flexible and kind.
Don't let anger stay with you. Forgive quickly and easily. Try not to dwell in
or on the past. Pray some more and then when you feel the spirit's touch make
your amends. It will make you happy and someone else happy
My daughter made amends after reading this text I think from NA book. I think it
is very good:
Text, p. 41 ––––=–––– As long as we still owe amends, our spirits are cluttered
with things we don’t need. We’re carrying the extra load of an apology owed, a
resentment held, or unexpressed remorse. It’s like having a messy house. We
could leave so we don’t have to see the mess, or maybe just step over the piles
of debris and pretend they aren’t there. But ignoring the disorder won’t make it
disappear. In the end, the dirty dishes, the crumb-filled carpet, and the
overflowing wastebaskets are still there, waiting to be cleaned up. A cluttered
spirit is just as hard to live with as a messy home. We always seem to be
tripping over yesterday’s leavings. Every time we turn around and try to go
somewhere, there is something blocking our path. The more we neglect our
responsibility to make amends, the more cluttered our spirits become. And we
can’t even hire someone to clean up. We have to do the work ourselves. We gain a
deep sense of satisfaction from making our own amends. Just as we would feel
after we’ve cleaned our homes and have time to enjoy a bit of sunshine through
sparkling windows, so will our spirits rejoice at our freedom to truly enjoy our
recovery. And once the big mess is cleaned up, all we have to do is pick up
after ourselves as we go along. ––––=––––
for today: I will clear away what’s cluttering my spirit by making the amends I