Donna Collins Tinsley is a sister among you, a sojourner, who writes a word of hope for mothers who have been affected by the pain of addiction in their loved ones lives. She prays for them also through Somebody's Mother Online Prayer Support Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/119408188089314/.
She lives in Port Orange, FL and has been included in 17 book compilations, several magazines and online. She is a lover of the Lord Jesus Christ.
Thursday, May 4, 2017
GET WITH THE PROGRAM!
GET WITH THE PROGRAM!
I attended a conflict resolutions seminar recently. It made
me want to say, "Get with the program" to my family. Then I
wondered where that phrase came from? Is it Al-Anon specific? I'm pretty sure I heard my mom say it here and
there throughout her life so that phrase has been around awhile.
The main meaning seems to be, follow the rules; do what you are
supposed to do. That also clearly implies that there is a known method or
"program" to follow; we might say to someone, “Come on, honey. Get
with the program. Do what you are told.”
Or McGraw-Hill Dictionary of American Idioms and Phrasal Verbs
gives the example, “Jane just can't seem to get with the program. She has to do
everything her way, right or wrong.”*
If I ask someone to get with
the program I may want them to make more effort to do what is needed or to
accept new ideas. In Word Weavers the
program is to follow the manual or the example of Word Weavers International in
the way they conduct their meetings.
For those who are affected by addictions in their family’s lives
they may want their loved one to go to a meeting where there is “program or 12-step
talk.” There are books about certain programs for recovery issues and yet everyone may have their own
opinion about them. One slogan I love in Al-Anon is, “Take What You Like and Leave
the Rest.” That has helped me tremendously when the stress of life has kept me
from doing the complete program.
I’ve perhaps made my own program
at times which consists of, on Thursdays, taking some time to encourage others
in prayer for those in recovery, hitting a meeting and then rewarding myself
with a Chick-Fila Milkshake. Here is an example of a Thursday post for my blog:
The Ways of the Lord
For the LORD is good;
his mercy is everlasting;
and his truth endureth
to all generations. Psalm 100:5
It's Thursday and today as I think about those who
are in recovery, I also am praying for those who are grieving, those who are
sick and people in need of a Healer. For those who want to give up, those who
are afraid their children will die of an overdose on the streets, and those who
are afraid their loved one will just decide to end it all, I pray, also.
I pray because that is really all I can do. I
yield to Him, although sometimes I want to try to fix someone; sometimes, so
very many times, I may even want to shake someone and say, “Get with the
program!”Instead, I yield to the Lord,
because letting go and letting God is the only reasonable thing that I can do.
It keeps me sane in an insane world.
His ways are good even when we can't see for the
darkness. His ways are good even when they aren’t our ways. His ways are good
through the valley of the shadow of death. His ways are good when we are lonely
because He will come to us. His ways are good when we are struggling because He
can calm the struggle.
His ways are good when our children have
abandoned or forsaken us (and Him) and gone astray because He is the mighty Shepherd
who searches for the lost one. His ways are good in our pain as He is the Healer.
His ways are good when the road is long and the journey seems too hard to
travel for He travels with us.
His ways are good we will believe for this year.
We can’t create, change or cure
anyone but His ways are good and He can. HE IS
Think on your blessings, as that is the only way
to overcome the darkness of this world. He is the Light and His ways are good!
The goodness of the Lord lives forever. Let Jesus be your program for today.
What to do for yourself:Focus on your blessings as you take long,
deep, cleansing breaths. When stressed throughout the day remember to breathe
Thought: Sometimes we just need to say a prayer
to get our minds in a better place. Focus on the Lord’s goodness in your life
even if addiction has flavored it. The Lord is good even when _____________ because_________.
Donna Collins Tinsley
Praying every day in every way for you and your
loved ones at Somebody’s Daughter Online Prayer Support Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/119408188089314/